When knowing
why isn't enough
Somatic coaching for women who can't think their way out of old patterns and old wounds.
ANTI STATIC
For women 40 and over who can see what
they're doing but can't change it. Saying yes
when they mean no. Putting themselves last.
Shrinking to keep the peace. Knowing it.
Still doing it.
FOUND
For women who were adopted and feel like an
outsider, push away the people they love,
never feel good enough, and still don't know
who they really are.
The wound is real. And it can heal.
You're not the problem.
You've read the books, written the journal, been on the reinvention retreat. You know yourself better than most people ever will, seeing your own patterns clearly - where they came from, why they're there, what they cost you.
And still, every time you try to change the thing you most want to change, something stops you. You can see what you want but you just can't seem to make it happen. Not because there's something wrong with you, but because knowing why you do the things you do isn't enough to change them. Insight isn't the same thing as action.
Some wounds formed before you had words for them. Before memory. Before you knew any other way to be. If you were adopted, the loss happened at the very beginning of your life and no amount of understanding it intellectually will be enough to heal it.
Because the impact lives in your body, in your nervous system, in the patterns that formed in your very first moments. Talking therapy helps to create understanding, somatic work helps you heal.
GUIDED PRACTICE · £27
Goodbye Guilt, Hello You
Guilt, fear, and old patterns have been making your decisions long enough. See and interrupt them as you make your way through this 60 minutes practice.
1:1 COACHING · 12 WEEKS
Anti Static
You know why you still put yourself
last, ignore what you really want,
and tell yourself to be grateful.
Now learn how to stop.
1:1 COACHING · 6 MONTHS
Found
Built by an adoptee for other adopted women. Somatic work that heals from
the inside and connects you with who
you really are.
What is somatic coaching?
Most coaching works with the mind - your thoughts, beliefs, goals and decisions. Somatic
coaching works with the body too, because that's where your patterns, habits, and wounds
are kept, it's where you experience life as you know it.
I have a unique way of helping my clients - I combine traditional coaching with nervous system regulation and Integrated Somatic Psychology (ISP). ISP is a body-based approach to working with your emotions so you can think, feel and act in ways that support you instead of keeping you stuck.
My somatic approach goes beyond insight and helps women create change at the level where it matters - not just talking about the pattern but replacing it. The body holds what the mind can't always access, and when we work there, real, lasting change is possible.
"Denise does powerful work supporting women to move from self-sacrifice
and survival into confidence, self-discovery and fulfilment. Her approach
helps women reclaim their sense of purpose, strength and direction."
Dr Justin James
I'm Denise
Mid 50s, single mum, Londoner, outdoor adventurer. I was adopted at birth, spent decades convinced it hadn't impacted me, then found out the hard way how much it had.
The end of a 20 year relationship gave me the chance to finally see who I am and why I did the things I did - the fawning and people-pleasing, the looking for love but pushing it away, and the constant feeling that I just wasn't enough.
I knew what needed to change. Somatic work is what finally helped me change it.
